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Many injured and allegedly dead after Truck Ploughs into Crowd in Nice

Truck Ploughs Into Crowd In Nice, France Many Injured

My heart just broke, I don’t understand how people can do this? Violence will always beget violence and it won’t end anything. Why? Why did they do this???

I just can’t… people have lost their family members, friends, lovers. Individuals who make up the threads of a community, all gone, for nothing. This incident follows  the recent bombing of a shopping centre in Baghdad Bombing in Central Baghdad

I can’t stop thinking about how I would have done the same thing. To bring my family out for a night out. Just walking together, chatting, spending quality time with each other. Just like how those families in Baghdad were out celebrating Eid with their loved ones wanting to break fast, just like those poor people in Nice who wanted to celebrate Bastille Day only to be confronted with the horror of bombs, guns, trucks and violence. What did that achieve?

 

No words can describe my sadness for the people who have lost someone in these horrific incidents. The people who were killed could have been sole income earners in the family, parents to a now orphaned child, sons and daughters who were taking care of their elders. It is not just the lives lost that matters it is also the lives that have been left behind in the aftermath. Horrific, just fucking horrific.

 

 

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July, You’re Here Already!?

Good morning beautiful people,

I have a backlogged of entries that I need to post up so be prepared for your wordpress reader and emails to be bombarded with what we did in the whole month of June after having our week of birthday parties and opening presents.

We had our coldest morning on Sunday to date, I think we went as low as 3 degrees and the cars were all frozen up. Ice was thick and frosty on the windscreens with wet ground and super cold air. That is as cold as it gets in good ol Auckland and I can’t imagine anything colder. I don’t know how you folks who live in colder places do it.

With the change of weather (we are expected to have a few more frosty mornings for a couple more weeks) baby has taken over my raspy cough and blocked nose. Poor bubs, except for sleeping time she is just as active and lovely albeit with buckets more of drool and mucus.

Gaby boy has been more clingy of late which is driving me crazy as I try to battle on with the sick baby. I do try to give him as much hugs and cuddles as he needs as he does seem more settle and less of a gorilla when I spend more time with him.

*I really must make a note to spend more one on one time with the twins. They are starting to act up more and I suspect this could be one way to combat their readed tantrums.

Speaking of tantrums…Ari had a massive on on Friday which continued on to Saturday and we only saw a hint of our beautiful cheery baby girl on Sunday afternoon.

As you can tell folks, this weekend just past was a loooooonnngggg one.

 

Happy Monday Peeps!

xx

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Kindness must be practiced everyday

So, I made it a point this year to make sure I posted at least three times a week on this personal blog of mine. It hasn’t even been 3 months into this gig and  I have already failed. The reasons are myriad some totally legit like Gaby falling ill, not eating and suffering from frequent bouts of diarrhoea and vomiting. Miki deciding that sleep was not for her while her two front teeth make an appearance. Ari was the only one who was fit and healthy except for one night where she had a really high fever and I was worried she was getting what Gaby was getting but it turned out to be a one off thing. Also lets factor in my laziness for not updating 😛

But enough about my excuses!

I read in the papers today about this poor woman who was heavily pregnant and crossing the road Auckland woman helps diabetic stranger after she collapsed on the road. She collapsed on the road, in the rain and passerby and motorists alike heckled her instead of helping her off the road with her child.

Luckily a kind Samaritan went to help her up and get her to safety as she composed herself.  Most people thought she was drunk and abused her for it but that does not condone their actions. I am just incensed at the treatment that this woman had to endure. We are living in a first world country, we should know better. Even if she was drunk, high as a kite, off her chair or whatever term people use these days, the woman obviously needed help and she had a child with her! Even the MORE reason to stop honking, get out of the car and help the poor lady. To those who walked by her and to those who honked at her SHAME ON YOU!

In the last ten years Auckland has grown exponentially with a rise in migration, tourism and the housing sector to name a few. I am afraid that as we get bigger and richer in Auckland we also lose bits and pieces of our humanity. What a terrible trade off. We need to practice more kindness especially in this age of technology.

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Is marrying MOH the reason I am fat?

I read a few articles today that pointed out that being fat could most likely be due to your partner as their lifestyle would influence your own lifestyle.

How Being Married to Mr Big Made Me Fat
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I was going through the photos on MOH phone and was so happy to see all the pictures of the kids playing, Miki, my mother in law and me… Wait is that me?

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I saw a photo of myself from one of our weekends and I was like…yup legit fat. I can’t lie, I was a bit upset. I don’t feel like how I look. I feel great but I must admit I don’t look my best. So I went to whine and complained to MOH and he was like “Its ok, what to do? You don’t look like that in real life, I think you look good”.

Aww, you’re the best babe.

A few minutes later he turns to me and says “I feel like an ice cream, you want one?”. What was I to do but say yes to the bloody ice cream and at 8pm no less!

 

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Top five regrets of the dying

I went through my forgotten Hotmail account to find this email from 6 years ago by the wonderful blogger Absolutely Fuzzy (do visit her blog for style inspo, beautiful fashion and travel photos. She is currently on her honeymoon but will be back to blogging with a vengeance)

This has always touched something in me every time I read it, every single time.

You only live one.

 

Top five regrets of the dying

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.

People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learned never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people have had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.

When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.

 

Bronnie Ware is a writer, singer/songwriter, songwriting teacher and speaker from Australia. She has lived nomadically for most of her adult life. Bronnie shares her inspiring observations and the insights gained along the way through the diversity of her work. To read more of her articles and learn about her other work, please visit Inspiration and Chai at http://www.inspirationandchai.com.

 

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Ash, 6 Years Ago

Ashley! Look what I found in my archives. 6 years ago you ‘layan’ me with my wedding blog. I love doing this Q&A sessions.

 

Where did you grow up? Tell us about your childhood.
I grew up in Cameron Villa, Penampang, Kota Kinabalu, Sabah, Malaysia. Nah, full address. Baru kau tau. hahaha. My childhood was fun. It was filled with adventuruous trips with the whole family and also a lot of memorable holidays. When I was younger, i spent most of time playing and fighting with my siblings. I always got bullied since I was the youngest. There was this one time at home where me, my siblings and some cousins were having our lunch and red beans were served. I used to despise them when i was younger but my siblings forced me to eat them and they would bribe me by buying my favorite grape flavored chewy-like sweet that were sold at the sundry shop outside my house and would bring it to me just to make me jealous. They would say, “one spoon of red beans and we will give you one sweet”. There were about 10 sweets in one packet. So, I had to eat the beans. Also, being the youngest, I didn’t get to hang out much with my siblings and other cousins as our age gap was kinda big. So for me, I always had to stay inside watching them playing under the rain and laughing hysterically through the living room window.  Even so, I had the time of my life while I was in my childhood years.

What was your favorite subject in school?
History, Biology and of course English.

What was your first impression of Bronson?
Haha. To be honest, my first impression of him was “Ugh, Why are you taking my sister away from us?”. Yeah, anger and hatred. But how could you blame me? I was only 12. Eventually he grew on me. Must be with those gifts. haha, just kidding. If I was given a second chance to have made a first impression, it would be crazy, fun, charming and wise.

What do you do in your free time?
Read, play the guitar, sing, dance, go online, homeworks, text and talk on the phone.

5 traits you look for in a person
Funny, Caring, Smart(both book smart and street smart), Sociable and has the same insterests as I do.

What is your favorite “guilty pleasure” food?
Wahahaha, pastas, pizzas, Kfc’s cheesy wedges, potato chips.

What is your favorite city in the world and why?
Hmm, I don’t really have one but if I had to choose, I would say New York Cause that’s where dreams are made of right? It could turn dreams into reality. So yeah, a girl with a big dream would like New York even if I had never set foot on its inspiring concrete jungle.

What artists would we find on your “most played” list on your iPod?
The All-American Rejects, Demi Lovato, Katy Perry, John MAyer, Lifehouse, Switchfoot, Taylor Swift, Teddy Geiger, Paramore just to name a few. hahaha.

Describe a perfect saturday.
The right weather, friends coming over, listening to my favorite songs, reading novels, hanging out with the family, bathe the dogs and maybe go out for a movie.

What is your favorite sport? Why?
Ever since I was a little girl, I’ve always liked swimming and badminton. Swimming because I’ve always loved the waters and badminton just cause it’s a fun and simple sport which helps you to burn all those carbs without you even noticing.

What did you think when you found out your sister was getting married?
Awwwwwwwwwww, it’s about time! happy for you guys.

Name a movie you could watch over and over again.
Finding nemo and you got served.

Best restaurant(s) in KK?
I know I’m being materialistic but i gotta say Pizza Hut. hahaha, Inanam’s well-known jeong hin. 😀

Favorite book(s)?
holy moly. This is a hard Question! Mostly chicken soup books, the twilight saga, books about myths and legends, Spiderwick guide, roald dahl books, calvin and hobbes, a walk to remember, pretty things, devilish, just to name a few. hahaha.

What inspires you?
People inspires me. All sorts of people. Oh, and also music.

Hidden talents?
I can memorize facts/lyrics really fast. hahahahahahhaa.

Any 2010 goals or resolutions?
To be a better person and also to achieve fruitful results for SPM.

3 random facts about you…
I speak an alien language with my dogs.
I enjoy making hand-made gifts for friends.
I’ve always believed the term “home is where the heart is”.

5 places you want to visit in your lifetime
Canada
United States of America
Italy
Spain
Argentina

either/or…
sweet v. salty: Sweet
ninjas v. pirates: arrrrr, pirates. Hey there Johnny Depp. haha.
manga v. anime: manga i guess. hahaa.

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K is for Kelly Tarlton’s

My kids love Kelly Tarlton’s and even more so now that they have upgraded their facilities. They now have a beautiful interactive area for the little ones and the cafe has had a makeover.

However, I must object about the placement of the souvenir shop which is at the exit😤. We had a ‘situation’ with the twins on our most recent excursion there. With all the goodies on display, all I can say is that there was a lot of  “NO’s”, screaming, crying and general mayhem.  Luckily, at the time we had a few family friends there with their kids and one dad had to pick up Ari while MOH dealt with Gaby and I with baby M.

As you can imagine, it was a painful moment for us all. But life is not all roses with children and it shouldn’t be. All these experiences make us better parents (well , I certainly hope so, actually I BEG that it is so) and help the child understand boundaries and discipline <– HA. HA. HA.😂

Anyhoo, the kids LOVED the visit so much that each time we drive by the place they would chime in with “BIG FISH!”, “GUIN!” (I am guessing they are shouting out the word Penguin), “WATER”, “AGAIN! MUMMY AGAIN!”.  Yes, they are constantly shouting, at this stage of their life there is no volume control. I also sometimes have no control over my urge to smash my head against the steering wheel when they have their screaming sessions.

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With that positive note here are the photos from our last excursion at Kelly Tarltons and from their Facebook Page;

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The photos below are from Kelly Tarlton’s Facebook page.

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Below are some photos from when we went with my family when the twins were only 40 days old.

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We are thinking of heading off there again in Winter to check out the “Explore the Jurassic Seas” . The kids loved the penguin area but I absolutely loved the tank with the sting rays, I could sit in that spot for hours (well, I can imagine sitting there for hours if I didn’t have kids).

Here is a link for the ticket prices, we wanted to get the annual pass at the gift shop but the with the twins meltdown we had to get out of there pretty quickly. It did not help that there was only one attendant there that, put mildly has long passed her ‘spring of youth moments’ and was not in a happy mood having to deal with an influx of customers all by her lonesome self. So yeah, nah.

 

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