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Post Surgery – Ari and her toe

So sorry for the late update everyone, the children have been on and off sick with runny nose and bad coughs. Everyone in the house fell sick and we were all taking turns like a macabre round the chair dance. Ari’s bandages have been removed and replaced with a teeny plaster that can get wet but needs to be patted dry after every shower. The scar is not so red and angry anymore. She went through the surgery like a champion. I have hilarious videos of her right after she woke up from the anaesthetic. She was disoriented but not disoriented enough to ask for an ice block (she got two because I made the mistake of biting a small bit and she threw a very big tanty with big fat tears rolling down her cheeks). The nurse looked at me horrified and said “Mummy shouldn’t have done that! It’s ok sweetie you can get another ok” I was horrified and also relieved that my daughter was well enough to be a spoiled brat.

Thank you to all my kind readers for the kind words of support. Much love.




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Surgery Appointment Booked

It’s confirmed! Ari will be admitted next Monday for her surgery. Wish her luck! My poor baby will have to go under general anaesthetic. I am a bit worried about that but still feeling upbeat and positive.

My letter of goodbye to that teeny toe:

Goodbye, special extra tiny toe on the left foot. You were a nice a surprise and we were going to keep you but you have made shoe shopping a mission. We have had to forgo beautiful tiny shoes for practical 2 sizes too big alternatives.

You have made it hard to balance and run at the same time. Getting stuck in places where you shouldn’t be has been a pain. But it hasn’t been all that bad, you are a symbol of how special Ari is. Sad to see you go but go you must so we can look forward to a more stable run, no more hidden promises of a compromised gait, access to a variety of shoes and the very fun notion of her contemplating on whether to wear heels or not can be an option opened to her.





***Has anyone have had an experienced with children and general anesthetics? How was it? What did you do to prepare for the before and after? Any tips?


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Murphy is out of surgery

MOH received the call last night that Murphy was out of surgery and for now is doing well. There was a whole lot of junk in there, bits of cloth, plastic, rubber and who knows what else. It was infesting in there for some time and parts of his gut had become infected. I can only imagine how he must have suffered and how long he had been suffering. I suspect it was when his appetite was cut down in half (4-5 months ago)  and we had attributed it to his short gut. Next time, when our dogs appetite changes we won’t be assuming and send them straight to the vet to get a scan.

We had sent him to the vet several times and we always came away with a jab or two and a check of his temperature, weight and abdomen. The vet and I could never feel anything. So a scan is a must next time especially if their appetite doesn’t come back in a couple of weeks’ time.


Poor Murphy.


He is still at the vets and stayed overnight, on the drip to replace all the precious fluids he has lost. I am hesitant to type this out just in case it doesn’t become a reality but he is on the mend and we just have to fatten him again once he gets home. I don’t even want to think about how much his surgery and after care will cost us. Nope, we did not get pet insurance, if you are reading this now and have a pet GO.GET.PET.INSURANCE. You will definitely need it.

Kaia (our other dog) has to go on a diet, I am afraid she gained A LOT of weight while we were trying to get Murphy to gain weight. She is like a walking tub now…It’s one or the other for us. LOL

Thank you to all for your kind wishes, I think we are out of the danger zone and we just have to help him gain weight and store all our stuff more securely to avoid this from happening again.


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Top five regrets of the dying

I went through my forgotten Hotmail account to find this email from 6 years ago by the wonderful blogger Absolutely Fuzzy (do visit her blog for style inspo, beautiful fashion and travel photos. She is currently on her honeymoon but will be back to blogging with a vengeance)

This has always touched something in me every time I read it, every single time.

You only live one.


Top five regrets of the dying

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.

People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learned never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people have had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.

When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.


Bronnie Ware is a writer, singer/songwriter, songwriting teacher and speaker from Australia. She has lived nomadically for most of her adult life. Bronnie shares her inspiring observations and the insights gained along the way through the diversity of her work. To read more of her articles and learn about her other work, please visit Inspiration and Chai at http://www.inspirationandchai.com.


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V is for Vagina


Georgia O’Keeffe’s “Grey Line”

Now, we all be shy when we talk about our lady bits but it’s important to talk about our body in a positive way and that includes the vagina. The vagina is a magical thing, it doesn’t need fragrances and douches to remain clean. The vagina has a delicate balance of bacteria down there and self-cleans. If you think you’re a bit on the ‘fragrant’ side then it is most likely have to do with your diet and if you clean yourself daily (gently wash the vulva and folds with water) very rarely is it about hygiene unless you are not able to afford tampons and pads and have to use a dirty rag each time you have a period.

If you don’t believe me, here, Buzzfeed did an article on it too: Buzzfeed: How to Actually Clean Your Vaginah

I read an article while researching for this topic about women cleaning their vagina with all sort of things which leads to infections and sometimes even cancer.


Most of the time these sort of things are done not just for hygienic purposes but to ‘tighten’ the area to pleasure a man.




First thing first, there is an exercise called Kegels, check the video out, get on your back and kegel that shit out.

Skip to 2:03 to check out the exercise

Second, no man, I repeat no man is worth having to have items shoved up your preciousness to ‘tighten’ it so that the man could have more pleasure.

If the guy is gonna run for the hills just because you just gave birth to a miracle and it made you ‘loose’ down there. Then you should have a party when he runs, “good riddance” I say. If you were born with it well then, the fun begins in finding the perfect fit now isn’t it. If the man complains about it being loose then we might have to find out if it really is you or the complainant lacks certain dimensions to fit correctly (ya know what I’m saying?). There are more important things in life then a loose vagina, like not having to worry about cancer and dying.

Here is a good link about maintaining a healthy vagina Vagina Health.  A healthy and active lifestyle i.e. balanced diet, exercise, safe sex practices and hygiene will lead to a happier and healthier vagina.



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***Just a quick recap, I joined a blog challenge called A to Z challenge where we write a post a day based on the alphabet.

My other posts for the challenge;

A is for Arianna

B is for Bronson

C is for Cynthia

D is for Doreen

E is for Empathy

F is for Fat

G is for Garden

H is for Hayao Miyazaki

I is for Idols

J is for Juice

K is for Kelly Tarlton’s

L is for Li Yang Ma

M is for Mikaela

N is for Naptime

O is for Overwhelmed

P is for Playground

Q is for Quiet Time

R is for Reusable Diaper

S is for Second Child

T is for Thirty

U is for University


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Enough Crazy stories and more LOVE!

Ok, I have had enough of bitching about housemates and what not. Let’s talk about something else and I have the perfect news to share with you. I just saw on my beautiful cousins Facebook that her boyfriend proposed to her. I found a video of him doing the deed and it is soooo sweet! I cried abit when she started crying. Doi dogo!


I was thinking

“So romantic!”,

“Wah, Cubex friends are so cool”

“Omg is cuzzie in a maids outfit”

“Aww he wore a suit!”

“Omg, he’s kneeling!!”

“Oh no, she’s crying!”

“Is she going to say Yes?”

I could feel everyone getting nervous when she didn’t answer and the boys were going to start chanting yes when Marina (the older sister) shush them all -it’s at 2.28 in the video-. FUNNYLA YOU BABE! I laughed until I couldn’t breathe ok!

What a sweet way to propose. I am going to go watch it again just to feel the warm fuzzies.

Congratulations to Cubex and Irene! I am so happy for you!



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Shanghai night in October.

Look what arrived in my mailbox yesterday!

The dress code card was designed by the bride to be’s brother. How creative and so talented. love the font. Sooooo, excited can’t wait!!!


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